For those that had the problem of assumptions

[ozwiccagal]

I was wondering how you approached those people that just assumed that their children were invited even though you specifically has just invited the parents. And i'm not talking baby aged children, i'm talking toddlers or older that are old enough to be left without their mums there?

I was just wondering because we are having a child free wedding/ reception (well the youngest person there will be 17, but in my opinion that is definitely old enough to understand what is expected at a wedding and not really a child any more), as i found out that my sister is expecting to bring her toddler son, so how do i approach the situation - as i know some people have had to tackle this type of situation already?

[blossy]

If it were me, I'd get my mum to pass around, word by mouth, that kids were not able to be catered for, and see how you go.

[Widget]

To counter-act this issue, I'm putting NO CHILDREN on my wedding invites... There will be 3 and that is it, my 2 girls - who are the flowergirls, and my little bro who will be 10 - who is my ring bearer...

I consider over 16 to be adult when it comes to functions etc...

You're gonna have to tell her somehow the place you're going to doesn't cater for children/toddlers... Or that you prefer the children weren't exposed to the drunkeness of the night??? Or something she can't really argue with...

It's your wedding and if you don't want kids there you shouldn't have to have them there...

[Sass]

We're including the wording on our map of the ceremony (its a in a large garden) that all friends, family and children are welcome at the ceremony but the reception is to be adults only and by invitation only'...or something along those lines.

[Catherine 6 September 2008]

When I sent out our save-the-date magnets we included a little info card that detailed a babysitter had been arranged for the day at my parents place. Then we just put only the adults names on the invites

[~Catherine~]

Oh Oz is this the same sister? I would just bring it up in conversation maybe one day that she is there.

[Lacey Lou]

Me I would bring it out WAY before any invitations were sent out. Otherwise I would get another family member to say something. You don't want to be looked at as the 'Bad Guy' even though it's your day! Go figure??

[~**Jen**~]

Originally Posted by Catherine 6 September 2008

When I sent out our save-the-date magnets we included a little info card that detailed a babysitter had been arranged for the day at my parents place. Then we just put only the adults names on the invites

That is such a good idea!

[chantelle]

i was just honest with people and said it was child free and that the same rules apply for all the guests. luckily i havent had too many problems with it just guests wanting too bring extra people that were not invited and that i dont know grrrrrrrrr

[ozwiccagal]

catherine, yes this is the same sister as i only have one :). I haven't sent the invitations yet, but my mum does know that it is child free and don't worry if i see my sister before the invites go out i will be somehow finding a way to subtly drop into the conversation that it is a child free event :)